Before Nora was born I had several long talks with myself about how different the pace would be around here with a new baby. (Remember this Amy. You have gotten use to parenting two fairly self-sufficient children, it's going to feel very different. Things will move SLOWLY. Really slowly. Don't panic.) These talks helped a lot. Whenever I find myself getting frustrated with all the things I want to get done I remind myself of these conversations and the fact that there is nothing to be surprised about here. I knew this is how it would be. And of course, as with all things, it will pass.
I have also found that making incredibly small lists helps. For example, this weekend one of my goals was to transplant two strawberry runners into a new bed. I transplanted five (awesome, I'm already ahead). I also made the lofty goal of getting the potatoes planted and managed to get that done too. The other thing I'm working on is my "oh wells". For example, I wanted to get some sewing in this weekend, didn't happen. Oh well. I wanted to mop the floors this weekend, didn't happen. Oh well. I wanted to go jogging twice, made it once. Oh well (well actually "way to go" is probably more like it since until last weekend I hadn't been jogging in over a decade but you get the idea).
And what I am learning to pay attention to instead, are the things NOT on my list that get done. I spent time with my family this weekend. I connected with each of my children this weekend. I gave lots of snuggles this weekend. I read books with a babe under each arm. I nursed. These are the things that really matter.
Small steps.
Enjoy the ride.
There's plenty of time for all of it.
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